The Truth That Heals
- Zora Zamecnikova
- Apr 6
- 12 min read
Updated: 6 days ago
Reflection
Why are true values the foundation of a safe spiritual path?
Many of us are searching for a safe space where we can grow, share, and develop - both spiritually and as human beings. But what if what appears on the surface to be acceptance and love is, in fact, only sweet hypocrisy? What if true safety doesn't come from pretending, but from truth and healthy boundaries?
“You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32)
When Values Are Missing, So Is the Compass
In various spiritual groups, I’ve observed how people become lost when they lack clear values. They learn techniques, visualizations, and energy work - but when a test or conflict arises, whether in life or relationships, many don’t know how to face it truthfully. And instead of genuine love, manipulation of situations and people arises, along with wounded egos and illusions of “my truth.”
People then build their lives and expectations on false foundations, and as a result, only create more problems, no matter how hard they try to act rightly. But without truth, there is no freedom. And even though it’s often proclaimed that everyone has their own truth, and that is the only truth that matters, there is one universal truth we are all meant to learn to live by. It is God’s truth. God’s laws for life on this planet and in the universe. That is what Jesus personally brought us - to notice, to live by, if we desire to live our lives meaningfully.
“Every house divided against itself will fall.” (Luke 11:17)
– Without inner unity of values, neither a relationship nor a community can grow.
“Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.” (Proverbs 12:19)
My Anchor in Life: The Values of Jesus, Not Religion
What helped me was the Bible—not the institution or the Christians who hide behind it, but the teaching of Jesus Himself. A complete guide to life. Truthful, direct, full of love and clear boundaries.
A teaching that does not rely on superficial, assumed harmony, but on deep healing through truth.
Thanks to these values, I didn’t allow myself to be led by false “gurus,” even when they were charismatic and others looked up to them with excitement and uncritical admiration. These values help me discern when words are truly supportive—and when they merely stroke the ego.
And this is another reason why I follow the truth of Jesus, and not that of Buddha or the monks of Tibet. Jesus and His disciples were willing to die for this truth. That’s how powerful and precious it is. Even knowing what cruel death awaited them. Other messengers of truth and spirituality don’t do that. That’s why I don’t place them on a pedestal—but I do place Jesus there.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” (Proverbs 4:23)
– Values as both anchor and protection.
Safety Is Not in Flattery, but in Truth
I’ve noticed that even in various interest-based groups, where the joy of co-creation should be the focus, a surface-level calm is often maintained, while truthful words are seen as threatening. People wish for everything to “shine,” but there is a lack of willingness to look beneath the surface and truly improve something. But God does not like lukewarmness. And I don’t want to live in a space where mediocrity is the norm and truth is taboo. I long for depth, for real quality, not for the sake of criticism, but because I believe we are capable of it.
“I know your deeds—that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other!” (Revelation 3:15)
– God does not like the lukewarm.
But the Opposite of Lukewarmness Is Not Always Truth
Sometimes, it’s just overheated adoration. A blind passion.
People tend to look up passionately and uncritically to those who appear wiser, more spiritual, more beautiful, or more talented. But blind admiration is not a path to truth - it is just another form of deception. Anyone who dares to question the words or actions of the admired one is immediately labelled “negative.” Because when the crowd believes something, it must, by accepted norms, be true. Because... the crowd.
But this very need to protect one’s idols from the truth is dangerous, for both the admirer and the admired.
The admirer often stops hearing their own inner voice, and the admired begins to live in an illusion of their exceptionalism. Sooner or later, however, the sobering comes. Because God’s truth does not support pride or manipulation, it supports growth and soul maturity.
History also teaches that it was individuals who saw the real state of things that changed the course of events, not blinded crowds. So the opinion of the masses is not necessarily the truth.
I have experienced both rises and falls, and I have seen how, when you come under the pressure of slander, people do not seek truth, they immediately turn their coats and condemn you. And suddenly, you have the opportunity to find out the price of true friends, and of your image in people’s eyes.
This doesn’t mean it’s wrong to express admiration and respect for someone’s wisdom, talent, or accomplishments. I do that all the time!
But it’s unhealthy to be uncritical in your admiration and to follow blindly.
God knows how to grant us applause.
But only when we know how to handle it. When we are willing to remain humble. When we do not receive praise as confirmation of our greatness, but as an opportunity to serve others. Because all talents and gifts we bring to this earth from God.
“People will praise you, but that praise is not from God. What is highly valued among men is detestable in God's sight.” (Luke 16:15 – paraphrased and interpreted)
“Human praise does not last forever, but whoever trusts in the Lord stands on a firm foundation.” (loosely inspired by Psalm 118:8–9)
Safe Groups Are Not Built on Silence, but on Truth
Kindness without truth eventually turns into pretence. Truth without kindness, in turn, causes harm. But when both are combined, a space is created where life can truly flourish. Not mere survival behind polite masks, but real growth and healing.
And yet, even when someone speaks from the heart, intending to help, it may still be perceived as an attack. Many people do not see the love and courage behind the words, they only feel that something uncomfortably touched them. And they react accordingly. “It feels unpleasant, so it can’t be love! Love is supposed to be kind and sweet!” they think.
We’ve become used to imagining relationships as something that should always be pleasant, smooth, conflict-free, sunshine-filled. And constructive criticism or honest feedback doesn’t fit into that sweet picture, even if it’s offered with a good intention to serve.
But this idea simply doesn’t work.
God, or the Universe, call it what you will, often sends us relationships to show us where our wounds still lie. Or, on the other hand, where we have already grown strong and peaceful, and others’ remarks no longer affect us. We don’t feel threatened.
But when we are called to grow, the first thing that happens is that these old wounds start surfacing, often through the people God places on our path.
Not to show us that we’ve failed, as people often assume, but because the entire Universe holds deep love and respect for us. For having had the courage to come to Earth and experience all that life here offers. To grow and mature through that path.
But the time always comes to finally see our suppressed wounds, and to heal them. And truth, even when it’s uncomfortable, is the very tool that makes that possible.
Without it, we remain for years, sometimes entire lifetimes, trapped in pain we've only learned to hide. And we keep running from relationships because of it. But once we finally accept the truth, we have a chance to step out of the cycle.
“You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32)
“The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.” (Proverbs 15:28)
True words ripen in the silence of the heart...
A Tool for Your Values: 6 Questions You Can Ask Yourself
What is truly important to me in life?
When was the last time I spoke the truth, even though it was uncomfortable?
Where do my decisions come from, from the ego trying to protect itself, or from the truth of my soul?
Do I feel safe in places where I can be honest, or do I have to stay silent to be accepted by others?
Am I willing to receive truth from others, even when it hurts, or do I immediately go on the attack to protect my ego and the image it has created? Because the path of healing is not comfortable, it is painful for everyone of us.
Is my character strong enough to be an honest bearer of conscious truth? Am I willing to stand by my truth, even if others do not accept me for it, or do I rather betray myself, and by doing so, also others, out of fear?
“Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ Anything more than this comes from evil.” (Matthew 5:37)
Clarity is part of the truth.
How Do I Know It Is the Truth, Not Just Criticism?
Truth or Reproach? Learn to Discern.
People often throw everything "unpleasant" into the same basket and tend to defend themselves even against what could help them grow. But truth can be distinguished from destructive criticism:
I have learned that when God shows me the truth, He always provides a solution at the same time. I look for the same in people who try to communicate something difficult. Because many people know how to talk. Endlessly. Repeating problems. But they offer no solution.
✅ “When God shows me the truth, He always provides a solution.”
“God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But with the temptation, He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13)
God never reveals a wound just for us to feel it. He always opens a path toward healing. He wants us to finally notice our wound and begin to work with it consciously.
“Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ Anything more than this comes from evil.” (Matthew 5:37) Clarity is part of the truth.
✅ Where does it come from?
Is there peace, honesty, and a desire to help behind the words, or frustration and a need to pour out someone’s pain onto another?
“The wisdom that comes from above is first of all pure, then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.” (James 3:17)
True wisdom has a specific spiritual imprint. It brings peace and solutions, not pressure, negativity, or manipulation. And even if it doesn't seem that way to us at first.
✅ God has even deeper sources of truth for those who walk with Him.
There is a higher dimension of truth, heavenly and spiritual, which is not available to everyone. Not because God does not want to give it, but because it works only in relationship. In relationship with Him.
I mean the prophetic gift, the word of knowledge, the gift of wisdom, or the discernment of spirits. These are not abilities one can achieve through meditation or train by technique. They are gifts of the Holy Spirit, released when a person enters into real union with Christ, not with a concept of divinity or a vague energy of light, but with the living God.
I did not see these gifts in esoteric groups. I saw empathy, intuition, skill in energy work, but I did not see true discernment. I did not see anyone carrying a word of knowledge that came from above with a clear purpose, beyond their own understanding. Nor a true prophetic ministry that carried the authority of God’s truth. This is not arrogance. It is a difference in the source.
God gives His gifts to those who walk with Him, not to those who simply wish for something impressive. These gifts are not about being special, but about responsibility. And when they are given, they are confirmed by the Spirit. They bring light, freedom, and clear discernment, even where there is chaos.
“To those who love Him, God reveals even the deep things through the Spirit.” (1 Corinthians 2:10)“
"For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control.” (2 Timothy 1:7)“
"To one is given through the Spirit a message of wisdom, to another a message of knowledge, to another prophecy…” (1 Corinthians 12:8–10, shortened)
✅ “What does it stir in you?”
Does it hurt, but at the same time you feel that there might be something to it? Even the simple fact that you admit there may be something true is healing.
“Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.” (Proverbs 12:1)
Growth often hurts, but it is a sign of wisdom and a willingness to receive truth.
✅ “Does it make you better?”
Liberating truth leads to change, growth, and understanding.
“No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” (Hebrews 12:11)
Truth may touch a tender place, but if it is from God, it bears fruit.
I have experienced countless times that people felt offended and hurt by the truth I brought to them. Because it shattered the distorted image they had of themselves. They attacked me, judged me, and gossiped.
And then they went and did exactly what I said needed to be done. They did it thinking it was their truth. They did not thank me for the honesty and integrity, because they do not know the value and cost of truth and the courage that comes with it. But they did what I had offered as the solution. For me, that was a clear sign that the truth I had laid on the table came from God. Not from some alleged negativity or a need to criticize, as seen by those who themselves live that way, and who judge others through the limited lens of their minds.
✅ “Is there respect?”
Truth does not humiliate. If someone puts you in a position of inferiority, it is not truth. It is judgment.
“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” (Matthew 7:1–2)
Truth is not superior. It does not judge but illuminates. If it humiliates, it is not spiritual truth.
This is something I very consciously watch in myself when I address a problem that harms me or others. And even if immature people receive such truth as judgment and belittling, I see the fruit of my actions.
Often these same people, just as I wrote earlier, go and do the very things I told them needed to be done. Not because I am so wise and all-knowing, but because God showed me the truth and the path to healing to pass on. And regardless of what people thought, once the truth was spoken, which is my task, God brought it to life. He caused people to accept it. The correction they made was not to please me, but to walk in what God had already confirmed. And God, in His mercy, spares me the flattery, so there is no ego inflation.
✅ “How do I feel afterward?”
Do I feel peace and clarity, or anxiety and shame?
“The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” (Galatians 5:22–23)
When the Spirit speaks, you recognize it by the fruit. Even if it hurts, it brings peace, not chaos. The same mirror applies in reverse. When I want to say something, do I say it out of love for the truth, or from frustration that others are not living up to my expectations?
“Speak the truth in love.” (Ephesians 4:15)
Truth only heals when carried in love.
But this is a tricky point to discern. Because for most people, even when they are told the truth in the gentlest way, the whole situation leaves behind a negative feeling and a sense of failure. Including the thought, “Everyone sees it. What will they think of me?”
And to be honest, the dark side is also very active in making sure we feel bad, unworthy, and unclean. It whispers lies and accusations into our thoughts.
But with time, when we look back later, we can see how the whole situation worked for our good. It brought good fruit. If we are honest with ourselves and willing to see the truth.
Here is my only piece of advice. When you receive a difficult truth about something in your life, receive it as a gift from God, who did not allow you to live in delusion. Thank the bearer of that truth for their honesty and courage. And accept the fact that all of us are here on this planet to learn through mistakes. It is not comfort or applause that helps us grow, but above all, our own mistakes, through which we discover which way not to go, and as a bonus, we develop character.
Conclusion
I carry within me the code of the Garden of Eden.
My soul remembers what it is like to live in harmony with God, with nature, with myself, and with others . My soul remembers the original purity, truthfulness, joy, and deep connectedness of all who were part of it.
That is why I cannot settle for shallow relationships or ugly environments. For a morality that values hypocrisy more than truthful character. That is why I desire to create and live the Kingdom of God on Earth, in a fellowship of souls:
✅ Who also carry within them the codes of the lost Garden of Eden and desire to restore such a life.
✅ Where the community aims toward a higher purpose and partnership with God. Once again. Without fluffy illusions of spiritual escapism, with a clear awareness of how to live this partnership in the world where we are now guests. In practical ways.
✅ Where there is no need to play hypocritical games out of fear that we would not be accepted otherwise.
✅ Where truth and honesty are not seen as personal attacks, but as part of upright character.
✅ Where we are not perfect, but truthful. And others know how to receive it, because it is genuine. No fake.
✅ Where love is not a sweet pose or hypocrisy, but a deep inner attitude.
✅ Where relationships are not built on idolization or false norms, but on God's truth.
✅ Where values are not a moralizing code, but a living compass for each individual in daily life.
✅ Such a church or community, or rather a circle of trust, is in my view the church of a new era. And it begins with each of us taking the first step toward truth. Not the sweet kind, but the real truth. The one that Jesus brought us, along with the instructions on how to live it.
“Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.” (2 Corinthians 3:17)
And what about you?
What truth are you living?
